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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]you should leave him alone when he's stressed. [/quote]

There's some merit to this. He shouldn't act out like he did, but you need to recognize when he's overwhelmed. [/quote]

Parenting 101. You're going to be overwhelmed for the first 3 years. Adults need to learn healthy coping mechanisms. [/quote]

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This is bullsh*t. When my spouse is stressed, I do leave him alone. But it's not because he might grab me and push me!!! People get stressed ALL THE TIME. They don't response by grabbing people.

Please tell me if someone did this to you at work, you'd be okay with it?
"BUT he was stressed, and you didn't recognize that he was overwhelmed."
So again, are you okay with someone grabbing and shoving you at work, even though he's stressed??

I'll wait for your response PPs. [/quote]

I don't think that's a good analogy. There are a lot of things that I would not be comfortable with a colleague doing that my spouse does, stressed or otherwise. In an intimate relationship, both partners need to be able to and learn how to communicate about their stress level without acting out. People do not always behave perfectly. There are some people here who freak out at the idea of one spouse speaking meanly to another, or using profanity, or calling a name. Not all abuse is created equally. OP's post includes some information about prior issues they've had, but I still think that if the OP wants to stay in the relationship, it may be possible to fix the issues they're dealing with in therapy. If the OP doesn't want to stay in the relationship or there are other things going on that she didn't mention, then sure, leave. Having a baby with someone doesn't mean that you have to tolerate awful treatment, but having a baby with someone also means that you shouldn't throw away a relationship before attempting to fix the issues in other ways.[/quote]

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