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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Deodorant, daily shower, straight As.
Acne treatment if it's really bad, but not before.
Bra if she needs one.
[b]What are you doing as a parent if not teaching those things, I wonder? Just driving kids around?[/b][/quote]

WAs that necessary?  Who said they weren't doing this?

And since you have it all worked out, exactly what do you do to enforce/require acne treatment or deodorant or bra-wearing?[/quote]

One of my kids has severe ADHD, and forgets hygiene, and all those things. I have to remind him all the time until it becomes so routine that he does it without thinking. This has worked in the past for learning practical life skills as well as academic ones.
I know this may sound boastful and unpleasant, but I have had to train a deeply forgetful and inattentive child, who has memory as well as other issues and learning disabilities.
I can tell you that iron willpower works every time. You have to be strong enough to remind your kid 100 times a day if necessary, every day, even when you're sick and tired. To work schedules around so that your kid's routine is set in stone so that one gesture follows another unthinkingly (and then when the routine is established you can relax). In the case of motor and sensory-challenged children, to make the gesture with them first, hand-over-hand, so they can feel what's the right way of doing it. Building routines is much easier if done daily: for example, showering once every two days is harder to remember than showering every day, etc. All these things are what I learned as the parent of a special needs child, but it can be applied to all children.
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