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[quote=Anonymous]My sister passed away from cancer 18 months ago. I have a 10, 8 and 4 year old and my sisters kids were 5 (twins) at the time. When hospice came in I told me 9 year old she was going to die soon.  He was beyond shocked. Despite the fact our world had been turned upside down and our lives revolved around her disease (at this point the twins were living with us and my BIL and sister were away trying a last hope treatment plan) he really didn't realize cancer meant death in this instance.  There was so much "fight girl" "were gonna beat this" "cancer won't get us down" that I think he really bought into that culture and theme (which we all did to an extent) that he really wasn't prepared. Im really thankful I had that talk with him.  About 10 days later I had a similar talk with all the kids.  It was the hardest thing Ive ever done but I am so glad I did it because all 5 of them really had no idea previous to me talking to them.  I was just very blunt. "Auntie is going to die. I am going to make sure you are ok. "Mommy is going to die. I am going to make sure you are ok." There aren't a lot of opportunities for words because the sobs take over so just be present. Im praying for you. [/quote]

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