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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here....this is already helpful! 
I guess I worry that he will be terrified....lord knows I am! And if he doesn't ask - I shouldn't tell him. I am ok with preparing him for how she looks. And for the sadness. But I also don't want to traumatize him.....maybe I tell him when we leave to come back home? That she might not live much longer?

This is a lot to process - for me even.....and I worry that he will be terrified of her if I just come right out and say that she doesn't have much longer to live.

Cancer sucks so bad......sorry for anyone reading this that has gone through or is going through it. 
Very rough stuff!

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I'm sorry for your loss.

Definitely tell him.  And now.  He deserves a chance to be kind.  I would sit him down after homework is done and simply say something like this.

I want to talk to you about Ann.  As you know she is sick and we've been sad.  Here are the details. Ann isn't going to get better, and probably won't live more than a month or two.  What she has is called metastatic breast cancer.  When you see her, you will probably be surprised at how she looks - that's because her treatment was very hard on her and the cancer is in her whole body.  We will visit and talk and show her we love her.

Give a chance for questions, and be sure to include something about this not being contagious.  Kids worry about that.

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