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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is your DH a lawyer or banker? I went through a period of short tempered as$&@& DH when he was in a terrible situation at work. What I did was basically not count on him for anything and give him a lot of space - I hired childcare and household help and told him if he has to work, to go into the office. I was pregnant with DC2 so was going to bed at 8:30pm, meaning basically I never saw him. Obviously this is temporary and not sustainable long term - DH got a new better job and calmed the f$&@ down. It wasn't a great time in our marriage, but we've been together a long time and I believed it was a temporary situation. [/quote]

This is OP and yes, DH is a lawyer.  Obvious, right?  Part of my hopelessness is that he will not consider getting another job.  I was very involved in his last job search and he got very, very lucky to find his current job, none of his other prospects came anywhere close.  If he were to change firms, he would have to take a huge cut (like over 50%) in compensation and lose job security.  So we're stuck until he's ready to retire (I'm praying for five years).  [/quote]

So wait - you don't work?  And were 'very involved in his last job search?'  He's stressed because he's supporting all of you.  It doesn't make his behavior OK, but I have to agree with PP - you sound exhausting ("my loving comment ..." blech.

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A lawyers salary can support your family and 4 others at the same time, dummy. Its what they do.
If they aren't earning a high salary they are often unhappy. He's not stressed to be suporting his family he's stressed because that's the nature of the job but if he quit he'd probably be more stressed (ego?).

Someone needs to care for the children because he probably has no time.      [/quote]

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