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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We moved my mom kicking and screaming. I did not like the place my brother chose but I was overruled. Now I get seriously 50 calls a day of complaining. Going home is a no go. She need medical supervision as she doesn't like medicine and it is necessary. What to do? I feel so guilty but I know she cannot live on her own. My brothers just block her calls and go on with life. I am exhausted and drive up and back once a week to see her (three hours each way).  She is not trying to make friends. Just complains. Other people in this situation and what to do? Living with me not an option for my own sanity as is moving her here.[/quote]

You need to do what your brothers do: block her calls when you need a break. Visit her when you feel you can tolerate her complaining. [/quote]

What is wrong with you?!  Block her mother's call?

OP, make a surprise visit at a meal and see what the food is like. My aunt? was in a nursing home and complained about the food.  I made a surprise visit on a Sunday for the evening meal and patrons were given a pint of mild, an apple and a grilled cheese sandwich.  The grilled cheese had been cooked hours earlier and was so hard I couldn't break it into.  The next morning I called the director and raised Holy Hell.

[b]Do not assume this is just an adjustment period[/b].[/quote]

Dragging her kicking an screaming indicates the mom might be in guardianship of 1 of the brothers and that brother is the POA.  My parent had an apt in assisted living then checked herself out and went back to her house-social workers visit and determine the ability to make decisions and live in the house.  
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