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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Again, it's not that they have less time. I get that. But my guy friends with kids seem to think they have some newfound immunity from being polite and actually keeping in touch re: plans and continuing to have a friendship. Whenever we do hang out it's always "we should do this more often." But simply getting them to communicate is near impossible post kids. [/quote]

OP, have you considered that they are maybe just overwhelmed? That the free time you have to whinge about why they're not calling you back is time that they're spending being overwhelmed by something else?

I was the first of my friends to have a baby, and I often felt like my single friends just did not really understand what my life was like. You say "get a beer after work" like that's the easiest thing in the world. It might be easy. But when you have a baby or a little kid to take care of, if work ends at 5:30, you have MAYBE an hour and a half with your baby before bedtime. And like a PP mentioned, you are likely to be getting up early. Not to go to the gym or make espresso or consider what art museum you will visit this weekend, but to change diapers, feed a hungry child, and get yourself and that child ready to go for the day, on top of the sleep deprivation that a lot of parents simply learn to live with. Your hour of "getting a beer on Thursday" is my hour of seeing my child on Thursday evening. [/quote]

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