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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^op again... meant below average. And going back to that, isnt it so hard to hear your kid described in percentiles and numbers like that? One of the scores, DS was in the .5th percentile. I didnt even know how to respond bc Ive never heard of such a thing and Im like my kid has language delays, major motor planning issues, how can these tests even measure what he knows when he cant motor plan and use language correctly enough to process the questions/tasks? And then I get wrapped up in the why- well why cant he motor plan or use language etc?? Did I not read enough or expose him enough to sensory rich environments, was it that time he fell and had a minor concussion? Was it bc he was breach? Did I not drink enough water when pregnant and maybe that caused him to be breach which caused these problems? My mind races with all these questions and thoughts. Its all so confusing and hurts to now have to think of my DS who was my precious bundle of joy as in the .5th percentile in this or that. Ya know? Trying not to of course but coming off IEP meetings, its hard not to. Sorry for long vents!!![/quote]

First off, let me be the first to say that none of the things you list above caused you son's issues.  Second, things got a little better when I tried to reframe how I looked at what the school/doctors were saying.  It seems backward, but sometimes they "want" your child to look worse on paper than they may really be - because if your child has a lot of "problems," they can receive a lot of services.  They may think they're helping by "skewing" the numbers low because it will increase the services the child can receive - and the child has 'room to improve' yet still receive services.  Heck, even if it's not entirely true, it makes me feel better :)[/quote]

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