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[quote=Anonymous]NP here. Just as a side note, honorifics and such are actually more common in most non-European cultures, so if your (white?) DC picks up on a bit of ma'am/sir auntie/uncle Ms./Mr. (as opposed to calling adults by their first names or "Jack's mom"), that will serve him VERY well among the friends of color he apparently has, especially if their parents are immigrants. I am definitely not a hardass about ma'am/sir, but when it becomes rote (esp when addressing non-intimate adults), I think it's fine, not inherently stifling, and can even open doors. Now, I wouldn't necessarily enforce this with family-- and I'd model more than enforce anyway-- but it's actually kind of nice if a kid can pick it up with non-intimate adults by, say, 5 or 6.

Basically, making it rote but not punitive or distancing is not entirely a bad thing, IMO, and I'm pretty freaking crunchy. It's like when I ask my preschooler if she wants something, I'll prompt with "'Yes, please' or 'No, thank you?'" until the please and thank you are sort of an automatic part of the response.

That doesn't sound like the OP's exact situation, but just sayin'.[/quote]

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