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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I spent my first IEP meeting (8 years ago) fighting tears, thinking "This is not my life...this cannot be my life."  No one likes IEP meetings.  They are at best an insane kabuki dance of which 85% is meaningless bureaucratic bullshit.

Try to block out some time for yourself after the meeting for a pedicure, a nice lunch out, or whatever makes you feel good.  We are all rooting for you.[/quote]

I wish I had your advice of blocking out time after meeting before! I went directly from a 2 hr IEP meeting to picking up 4 yr old DS and 1.5 yr old DS and taking them straight to the playground. Chasing around my 1.5 yr old while he climbed and was running all over the place was the last thing I needed to be doing. I had no time to take a deep breath, process, think, digest and ended up having such anxiety at the playground. I needed to get out of there so I made the kids leave with me and then was on edge the rest of the day. Definitely could have used a break in between the meeting and going back to momming.

The IEP meeting was tough listening to all the "low average" and "borderline" scores from the testing and hearing everyone analyzing him and of course having a meetig focused on all the negative things... the kid was in my belly just 4 yrs ago- I still want to dote on him, not focus on every negative thing. But Im grateful bc they did their best to keep bringing up positives and talking about how sweet and cute he is, so I think they were being more sensitive than theyve been in the past... Prob bc I cried at the first meeting I had with them ? They did put in great services in his IEP (again after the first meeting I had with them where I had to fight with them just to evaluate him) and part of the challenge  (where the fighting with DH comes in) is that we'd been planning to move out of state this summer and now with this IEP in place for next year and all the hard work Ive already put in, I dont think I can handle moving right now and starting over with a new IEP team and dealing with this all over again. So this weight on my shoulders of making such important life decisions is killing me bc any decision we make impacts DS and his services. And since I cant predict the future I dont know if staying or going will be in his best interest. Im putting tons of pressure on myself to do the right thing but I dont know what that is. I can hardly sort through all my thoughts. I keep telling DH that dealing with all this on its own is enough in itself but when u add in other things like moving etc, it adds sooo much extra work that we really dont need in our life right now!

Ahh,thanks all for the support and Im sending it right back to you. Nice to know were not alone.[/quote]

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