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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a sahm and we have a housecleaner come every other week.  I wasn't a great housekeeper before I married, before kids and when I was a wohp.  I didn't magically turn into one when I became a sahp.   (I do like to cook- so there is that- however my adventurous eater left for college and I am tired of cooking for two fairly picky eaters, but I digress).

If your DH went back to work, can you do the emergency sick days and snow days and all the doctor's appointments for at least a year? What about being at the house when someone comes to fix something?  Someone who is starting out again can't be the back up parent.  How flexible is your job?  Having to be a back up parent when starting a new entry level type of job can be sabotaging.   Can you do pick up from aftercare?   You say your job involves travel, doing drop off and pickup when you are gone will make it difficult for your children to do after school activities as your DH will have to have a full days work and commute.

Does your DH do well with the parenting side?  Is he a great father?  Does he volunteer in the school?  They love Dad's.  Does he do more of the upkeep of the house? Who does the yard maintenance now?  Who does the car maintenance now? Is he likely to coach one of your children's sport's teams?

I have a friend who was in a similar situation.  It took her DH going away for three weeks for her to see all the stuff her DH actually did that she took for granted.  She realized he was the glue that held everything together.  Are you more of a type "A? and your DH more of a type "B"?  
 
It sounds like you guys may benefit from a third party helping you iron out some things and come to agreement and find a better balance.  Since money is not the issue, I don't think having your DH go to work is the solution for you all.  It would add to your current burden, not subtract. 
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Uh...OP said they would get a nanny. My DH works full time, volunteers at the school, coachea sports teams, does the car maintenance,

I hate hate to brraknotnto you, but these thingsbyou list are not hard.[/quote]

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