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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This question is for those facing secondary infertility. I don't mean to offend anyone who is struggling to conceive #1.

I have a 4.5 year old and have now been trying to conceive #2 for 18 months. I am 37 and DH is 39. I've had 2 MCs and then started seeing an RE who diagnosed me with DOR. We moved to IVF and my first egg retrieval was just cancelled due to poor response (just had one follicle developing). I am seriously struggling with whether or not to keep going or just quit while I am ahead. I am grateful to have one healthy child and am starting to question whether this is all worth it. I would like to have another child, but am not sure I have what it takes to make it happen. Maybe I just don't want it badly enough? Plus, at this point my DD is in such a great stage - independent, fun, we can stay out all day. The longer this takes, the more I question being able to go back to the baby stage again.

Just wondering if anyone else feels this way if you already have one child. Thanks for sharing.[/quote]

Since the IVF cycle got cancelled, will you always wonder "what if...?" if you don't at least try one? Were the shots and testing so arduous that you can't imagine repeating, or did you handle it pretty well? At 37 I would think you still have a shot. Are you at a top clinic? (Look at SART IVF success rates and compare your age range at your clinic versus one of the top ones...they can be almost double at top clinics). Are you using the recommended fertility supplements (acai, etc.) so that you're giving your cycle your best shot? I sometimes felt defeated but with time would come back to feeling like I would always wonder if I didn't try. I wish I would have known more for my first IVF cycle (go to top clinic, take the supplements) so that I hadn't wasted time and $$. Also, if you do get pregnant, do the chromosome testing (PGD is a great idea too). Egg quality can be a big issue with age (and in my case I believe was to blame for my much harder time getting pregnant in late 30s). [/quote]

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