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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Adopting a child who has suffered the loss of family/parents as well as their way of life and country to war isn't something to do instead of having a baby via donor egg. Raising an older child who had suffere through such trauma is a very difficult thing. [/quote]

I truly hope you are speaking from experience and. It just spewing rhetoric.  It depends on the child,las to the level of difficulty. It can range from the levels of difficulty as if you had birth the child yourself to having a child with RAD. I adopted an older child, and he hasn't been any more difficult he. Any other child. I know other families who have adopted older chilldren with few or mild difficulties.  I also know families who have had a rough and horrific time raising their older adopted  child. But then there are people who have their natural born difficult children. [/quote]

I am speaking from experience.

Your situation is the outlier, not the norm. It's unrealistic and goes against common sense to believe that a child from a war-torn country or from any type of background that involved significant upheaval in their early life will not suffer from trauma and need significant support.

There are many Syrian and Syrian American families in the US and I truly believe for any child placed here in the US it would best serve the children if those families were considered first. Btw I adopted internationally so it's not that I think American families can't raise children from other cultures.

Also, from the article mentioned above "However, she said many families are deterred from adopting refugee children because they prefer babies or young kids."

The OP said she was considering this route instead of donor egg. To me this sounds like she would like to parent a child from birth on up so it's better if she pursues that option whether it is by donor egg or adoption or some other means.

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+100, from a former humanitarian aid worker in a war zone.  Re-homing these kids thru adoption is best done with families who have some cultural background and language and ability to manage serious trauma.  Love doesn't conquer all unfortunately.  Please give money to refugee groups and work in your community to identify and support refugees in all ways - politically, financially, in the education system and thro donated goods and mentorship.  Press at the national level for a rational Syrian foreign policy, strict adherance of all parties to the Geneva Conventions and prosecution of war crimes and unfettered access for humanitarian aid and news media.  One of the best ways we can help Syrian children is to help them stay with their families in their home country.  This is not just a moral obligation, but also in the interest of US national security.[/quote]

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