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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Take him to a developmental pediatrician if you have concerns.  Seriously [b]nothing[/b] you wrote would deeply concern me in the slightest.

He sounds like many kids his age.  Honesty, you seem a little naive since you took him to an OT evaluation for hitting when he was a toddler.  One, OTs don't diagnose anything and two, that's a pretty typical stage for kids to go through SN or not.[/quote]

OP here. [b]The OT evals were based on recommendations from his preschool.[/b] At the time we did not believe there were sensory issues but we also wanted to work with the preschool and didn't want him to get kicked out. I am not seeking out a diagnosis but we have been told several times that his inability to keep his hands to himself is impeding him socially. Since it's been an ongoing problem, I am wondering if there is an underlying issue.

I am happy to hear that this does not sound concerning. [/quote]

I can't stand preschools like this.  Toddlers and young preschoolers often go through hitting phases and squirminess is part of many kids' natural personalities.  Some preschools expect every kid to march in step or there's something wrong with the kid.  Ugh.  Too rigid.

Truly, OP, I would find a different preschool but I could see why you wouldn't necessarily do this at this point in time.  Make sure your kid gets plenty of exercise/physical activity, limit screen time, get enough sleep, and just keep a watchful eye on how he does in K.  If you're getting a phone call from the teacher in the first two weeks, there's a problem.[/quote]

This is OP, I know the original post was long but he is in K now. FWIW we did move him to a different preschool for his last year and didn't see the same issues. He's been in K since September. I'd say we've gotten 3-4 emails all year about "incidents". There's been kind of a perfect storm the past month of reports from school, aftercare, and sunday school which is why I'm asking now... [/quote]

3-4 emails year again wouldn't concern me.  In terms of a  perfect storm--everyone can have a bad week.  What does your gut tell you?  Start with your pediatrician if there's something niggling at the back of your mind.  Obviously no one can diagnose your kid over the internet, but I don't really see anything to raise an alarm.[/quote]

OP here. Thanks to everyone for the thoughtful response.

To address this one specifically... my gut tells me he's a generally normal kindergartner of above average intelligence that could use a nudge in some social skills. However, [b]as of this week he has been officially kicked out of his before/after care, which does not feel like an every day occurrence given that it was for socially unacceptable behavior (hitting)[/b] that has [b]come and gone for 3 years[/b].  It's easy to say that the before/after care was not a good fit and that's the problem, but I had similar thoughts about his first preschool so there's a trend there. I go back and forth for thinking that I am getting spun up over nothing (especially since his K teacher had not raised major red flags) and feeling an obligation as a parent to get it checked out if there is really an issue.

In some ways I hope the pediatrician says that there's no reason for alarm and DS will grow out of this with appropriate support at home and at school. But, then if the behavior continues we're back to step one and it's frustrating to live on pins and needles that you're going to get a call about an incident.  [/quote]

Whoa, back up, OP.  You went from 3-4 emails a year to him getting kicked out of after care?  I guess it is possible for after cares to have very strict/zero tolerance policies on hitting.  Was the hitting an ongoing issue throughout this year or did he just recently act up and get booted?  Does he hit at home?  On play dates with friends?  (Not saying this is you, but it amazes me how some parents never correct their kids in social situations when it comes to hitting.  Often I think they pretend not to see it b/c they don't want to deal with it.)

Some NT kids have very low thresholds for not getting their way and hit fairly easily, so he may not have anything diagnosable but could benefit from a social skills class.  [/quote]

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