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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]thanks to everyone for responses. re 11:10's third point -- when I'm rubbing my child's back and he immediately says "I dont want YOU to rub my back...then turns and says Daddy will you rub my back?"

The appropriate response is for DH to gamely say sure and then for me to exit stage left?

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Absolutely.  Kids illustrate preference for one parent over another ALL THE TIME.  I say this as the non-preferred parent.  99% of the time I view it as a positive that DH has such a strong bond with our children that DC #1 wants him more often than me.  Sometimes it's annoying if he isn't around, but generally in the moment that's when you go, great! Daddy is right here, see you tomorrow. Think of it this way, it would be equally frustrating if DC always wanted you.

In terms of DH asking for an apology, yes you should apologize. If he asked you to remove your hand and you didn't, I agree with PP it is no different than asking DC to do something and them not doing it, but worse because you have impulse control.  You can explain the WHY of what led to it, and it sounds like you did that and he understands.  You need to rationally ask yourself whether he is modeling respectful behavior towards you and have a conversation about DC mirroring that behavior though, if this is a pattern.[/quote]

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