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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP please ignore any poster that wants to explore what you did to make your husband sleep with other women and yell at you angrily that he's not getting enough sex from you, never mind he has not behaved tenderly toward you in years.

If he hit you would you listen to someone who was like, 'be honest. It's not good that he hit you, but what issues did you cause that led to this?'

Maybe it takes one to no one and I have been there, but this is more severe emotional abuse than I've heard of in a while.[/quote]

That's not what I said. Everybody brings issues into a relationship . If partners don't own their individual issues they cause eventual resentment. [b]It goes for both people and is the foundation of a successful marriage.[/[/b]quote]

That's a nice thought if there is still a marriage to work on, but in OP's case, it sounds as if the husband has long ago left the marriage in all but name. He treats it as an open marriage and sleeps with anyone he wants.

It isn't as if the husband seems to want anything different or wants to reconcile. I know -- we only have OP's side of the story and on DCUM there are always those posters who will come on and blast her and insist she's a party to whatever went wrong. She surely is; yes, we all bring issues into relationships . But this "relationship" sounds too far gone to try to work on her issues now, or his.

I agree that OP could use therapy or counseling later to work out what went wrong and why she stayed so long, but her priority should be extricating herself from marriage to a blatant cheater who has no interest in her or in committing to a marriage.

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