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[quote=Anonymous]Hi ... I am the OP... Thank you so much for your replies.

Please rest assured, my stepdaughter has had maximum input own what car she will get. My main concern about her mother sticking her nose into this is that it is highly likely that at least for this summer my stepdaughter will be living with her. In the past we have had conflict/issues (I feel like those are too strong, but for the sake of this thread... they will do) because her mom likes to pull the "do what I say because I am your mother and I would not steer you wrong" card. This causes my stepdaughter to not stand up for herself because she feels bullied into going along with her mom. For example, the summer after she graduated from high school she got a job that was close to my house (Reston) so she continued to live with me (even though she was over 18 and no longer in school so I was not her guardian). She also had an internship in DC 3 days a week. Her mother complained so much about them not getting to spend time together that she quit both the job and the internship because when she stayed with her mom in Loudoun it was too difficult to get to either commitment. Her mom then proceeded to complain because my stepdaughter never had any money and just laid around the house all day. Also, when school started and she wanted to get cute clothes (and a warm coat) to wear on campus she came to me to bail her out. I had to sit down with both of them and explain that there had been a plan in place and my stepdaughter would have had plenty of money to shop if she had worked as planned, but since her mother had suggested she quit her job maybe she should subsidize the shopping (needless to say this did not go over well).

I actually told my stepdaughter my budget and told her to provide me with a list of 5 cars she liked that fell in the budget. Most of the cars she picked were 4 door (because she wants to be able to ride around with her friends). The body types on two is just listed as sedan and one is a sports sedan, one is considered a cross over and one is considered an SUV (although on the small side).

Of the 5 cars she picked only one failed my safety/reliability/cost effectiveness criteria and that was one of the sedans. So, I honestly think she will not have an issue with whatever car she ends up getting.

We have all been there are young adults who did not want to disappoint our parents and it just makes me want to scream that her mom keeps putting my stepdaughter into these situations.[/quote]

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