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[quote=Anonymous]From another perspective:

I am a DW with a spouse who worked very hard for many years, but as time went on, he got more and more flexibility at work. The way it is right now is not necessarily how it will be forever (or it might be).

There is so much anger in this thread. You are no longer connected to your spouse OP. And you won't get connected by throwing anger his way. That doesn't mean you don't put boundaries in place, but it does mean looking at the situation from his perspective.

He is tired. His job is high stress (i;m guessing). Kids are also high stress and so are wives, esp those who are unhappy. The best gift you could give to him would be to be direct with him and if possible ratchet down the emotion. If not, ok. Start with empathy - then move on to sex and I miss you and how much fun we used to have. Then have a little fun. Stop there.

Do it again. Do it again. Do it again.

I know you are angry, but over time he will likely loosen up and be soooooo happy you are his wife that he might even magically call you in the middle of a day and do something for you.

Genuinely give him time to settle back in to the relationship before you start suggesting things to do as a family. A Vacation in there would be good too - with no work. That will be time to reconnect with the kids without the stress of daily life.

Then tell him the truth. I missed. I want the kids to know you because you are so awesome. How can we make that happen that works for you? Give him time.

Think of this as a 6 mo project. Wont work at all if you feel angry toward him though - let that go. If he's still a jerk after 6 months, then you can start hating him.

But divorce just isn't ideal for anyone.

I know you can do it and so can he. It is asking A LOT of you too - I know. Unfortunately that is just how it works out sometimes. WE have to give 110% until our spouse can catch up and even it up again.

Much love to your family.

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