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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is no need to routinely drill your child, workbook your child, flashcard them, or "fill in the gaps" with a child who is doing well in school.  I also see this attitude on DCUM and it mystifies me and speaks to parents' anxieties and helicoptering more than to any production of advantages for their children.[/quote]

Plus a million.

You don't need to do workbooks or flashcards even when they are doing poorly in school.  Rote memory approaches are not helpful for kids with LDs.

OP, What age is your kid?  If he/she is not actually in school, go stand in the corner for a time out.[/quote]

I could not disagree more, and I contend that the absence of old-fashioned memorization and intellectual rigor in modern American education is a detriment to all children. Just because children with LDs have a harder time memorizing, it doesn't mean you shouldn't do it! Methods don't cancel each other out either: you CAN do multi-sensory and rote learning during the same practice period at home! It's the best way to learn, because it includes variety, which is the secret of great learning. That way, kids will think the multi-sensory thing is the fun part (except mine, who has sensory aversions).

The sad truth is that many parents who were born here when their parents could easily attain a middle-class lifestyle with little schooling have a very skewed view of what it takes now to attain that same lifestyle (something which other developed nations knew all along, because despite being the first world, none enjoyed the economic advantages the US had after the Second World War). Don't pass on these bad habits to your kids, SN or not. Hard work and striving are now inevitable for the US to stay competitive in a global economy, so instead of whining about the effort involved, teach your kids to enjoy acquiring knowledge and to develop their learning muscle, which means learning how to learn (efficiently, without wasting time). Note that school standards are low compared to other rich countries: an A here doesn't mean an A over there. So just because our children are coasting in our area's schools doesn't mean they have acquired an acceptable level of critical thinking skills or particular mastery, especially in mathematical analysis or essay writing. 
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