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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't see a si God reason for you to be contemptuous of these people. You truly have issues.  Work on being a more decent person...I mean, literally work on it.

Here's your homework:
Get a small notebook.  Every time your kids are going to see their grandparents, write three things you appreciate about them as your kids' grandparents.  Work at it.  Do they keep a clean house?  Do they have table manners?  Start there for God's sake.  Do this again after your kids come home.  Did they do a activity with your kids?  Did they interact with them?  Do they speak kindly?  Do they have patience?  Did they feed the children?  Write it down.

Work at this. You can do better.  Be a better person.[/quote]

Not OP.  But, she is working on it. She is a human being who wrote about how she feels here, as an outlet.  Even posting here is working on it. I myself am often impatient with my Mom and FIL, and I own it. It is not an unusual dynamic between grown up kids/adults and their elderly grandparents. She has a baby, she might be a bit older than 26 and without ton of energy, so, yeah, she is human and has all kinds of feelings. Nothing to be embarrassed about. It is about coming to terms that now she/her DH and their kids are a lifeline for his parents and roles are reversed. Maybe it is just getting used to her being the provider of needs as before she was used to parents being the providers of her needs. It is normal part of ageing and changing relationships.[/quote]

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