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[quote=Anonymous][quote=SoccerRef][quote=Anonymous]With all the screaming coaches and parents (there are some on my daughter's team that I can't stand), I was wondering what power the refs have to control it. Why don't they card coaches more? Can you kick out parents?[/quote]

You can't card coaches, only players/subs. There are a few tournaments/leagues I've worked that allow it, but it goes against the Laws of the Game.
We can throw them out of games, though. Generally we're trained to "ask, tell, dismiss"...ask the coach to stop the behavior, tell him "that's enough", and then throw them out if it persists. I've found that going over to a coach at a stoppage and saying that you heard him and understand his complaint, but now it's time to stop, usually works. Obviously, refs need thick skins, and unless coaches get abusive or personal it won't get to the point of dismissal.

Parents are more challenging. Again, most of the yelling is just blowing off steam, nerves of watching their kids play, legitimate frustration with a bad call etc.
But there are also some parents that I equate to internet trolls..yell just for the sake of yelling, eager to engage with the ref and get into an argument. I've found it best to ignore those people completely, unless they're harassing the AR. Engaging with parents like that is just pouring gas onto the fire.
Luckily, I've never had to throw a parent off of a field, but we are empowered to do that if we so choose. If they refuse to leave, we can abandon the game, and the league decides what to do from there.

I had a girl from a U11 game scream at her dad to shut up once. Never heard a quieter sideline after that. [/quote]

When I a kid playing, about U11 as well, we had one mom who just screamed nonstop. During one particularly important game, her daughter yelled out 'Your not my real mom anyway, so shut up!' It finally worked.  Fast forward to today. When my son was U9 and playing against a McLean team, the coach was just horrible...nonstop shouting..shouting at the ref, the players etc. One of the McLean players turned to the coach and (loudly) begged 'Can't we just have at least one normal game?!' 
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