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[quote=Anonymous]Hi 18:16.   I actually think we agree more than we disagree, but that we may be focusing on different age groups /scenarios of kids.

While I have not seen the study you cite about 60-90% of children identifying as transgender later desisting, I don't doubt it if you are talking about very young children.  I was told by leading experts that this is common when one looks at very young children - and most of us probably have some life experience with family member of friends to confirm that.  But I was also told that when kids seriously come out in the early stages of puberty, it is rare (if ever) that they later go back to their birth identification.   It is also quite likely that over time there will be more accurate diagnostic methods and larger numbers of better trained professionals conducting the assessments.  I suspect very few of those 60-90 percent of children really exhibited a comprehensive set of indicia of being transgender.  Perhaps one day protocols will develop demonstrating that the optimal time to use blockers is with children for whom the very early phases of puberty cause great disphoria accompanied by a demonstrated track record in the later childhood /pre-puberty years of confirming evidence, or some other set of more  precise criteria will be developed.

Seems to me unlikely that a 12 year old who wants to be on puberty blockers when all of his/her friends are developing breasts or getting more muscular, is not doing so on a whim and is not  likely to "change his/her mind."  That may be too late for some - especially girls/trans guys -- but even pushing back to 10 or 11 might be reasonable.  Obviously, it is a closer /tougher call the more you push back.

My focus is on kids where there is a strong evidence supporting the child's coming out as transgender, confirmed with multiple professional evaluations, waiting a reasonable amount of time pre WPATH or other guidelines.  Even then, there is the sterility issue/risk.  But as a parent when your child already knows more than one trans kid who has taken his own life and is facing the hell of puberty, I can understand why some parents and doctors would say - if the child wants it -- the risk of the blockers is less than other known risks.  In truth, one can't be sure a CIS-gendered straight person will eventually have children in this world  -- one might preserve fertility for naught anyway.

Down the road, perhaps scientists will find a way for prepubescent cells to be removed and then  developed thereafter to facilitate puberty.  Thanks.   [/quote]

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