Reply to When did you realize you didn't like your mom (or dad)?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "When did you realize you didn't like your mom (or dad)?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]My father raged frequently and was abusive.  I never really liked him but I did love him because that's what I was conditioned to do.  He killed himself when I was 20 and that's when I finally started going through the process to understand that what I felt for him wasn't love and while I don't have a name for it, I let those feelings go, too.  Now, when I have dreams that include him, he no longer has any power over me.

My mother and I had a good relationship until the youngest of my 3 kids was about 2.  That's when I really became aware of the close relationship between my youngest 2 and was reminded of me and my little brother - who killed himself when I was 22.  The enormity of my childhood came crushing down on me.  I couldn't understand how my mother could let my father do the things he did.  Had anyone done to my kids what my father had done to my kids, I, literally, would kill them.  I saw my mother in a whole different light  Before this moment, I had had some anger at my mother but swallowed it because she was a much better grandmother than a mother.  But, after that moment, I stopped liking her.

I've had lots of therapy to help deal with it and am in a good place but I don't think I'll ever like my mother again.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics