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[quote=Anonymous]You need to lower the stakes -- way, way down. It's just a date. Just because someone "wows" you when they walk in the door doesn't mean that they are your soul mate. Lower.the.stakes.

Also, a little tough love -- you ARE being self-centered on your dates in that you seem to become entirely focused on selling yourself to the exclusion of actually getting to know the person sitting across from you. That's going to put women off, because a) you seem really into them without really knowing them and b) you seem very self-absorbed and then, c) you seem a bit desperate (sorry, OP).

The first step is self-awareness and mercifully, you seem to have it. Those that don't are really screwed, but you're not.
Just focus on forcing yourself to relax, to reign it in - and to actually get to know the woman before selling yourself. Ask questions about her, let her ask you questions about yourself.
And stop putting so much importance on the date just because you get a good impression when she walks through the door. You will feel desperate, lose your footing and lose her interest.

It's just a matter of getting perspective -- and then hopefully you will find it easier to just be yourself. [/quote]

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