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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a preteen/tween I was really close to my mother and as a teenager/young adult I realized that she had been basically using me as her therapist and sharing things that I shouldn't have had to deal with at such a young age.  As I grew older I gradually realized that I was losing respect for her and being more frequently frustrated by her overwhelming negativity.  Things really came to a head around the time of my wedding and I lost pretty much all respect for her.

Since then, I've tried to focus on her good qualities and to recognize how much of her behavior stems from mental health issues.  She's gotten less negative over the past few years which is a great relief and makes it easier to be around her.  I know that she loves me and try to keep my expectations low which has also helped significantly.  It's only now that I'm finally recognizing the full extent of my parents' issues and what caused them to behave the way they do (anxiety, depression, probable ADHD).  Unfortunately, unlike a PP, the lessons that I learned from my parents were more about what [b]NOT[/b] to do, but at least I learned the lessons and any time I find myself slipping into lazy or negative or self-centered behavior I catch myself and recognize that I'd [b]never[/b] want my kids to feel about me the way that I feel about my mother.

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Whoa.  Did I write this?[/quote]

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