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[quote=Anonymous]NP here.  I got an average education, average schools, and later got a great college and law school education.  But I really came from nothing, and always wanted my kids to start with more opportunities than I did.

My DD got herself into a very high ranked school (west coast).  She is doing well academically although could do better (doing dumb things like not turning in homework). Socially, though, she hasn't clicked with anyone and she's lonely, missing her old friends, and has considered switching to the local public.

Our public is no great school in comparison to 1) her present school, 2) the NoVA public schools or 3) my own high school. That last point...worse than my own high school, irritates me....after all my own hard work, I'm going to send my kid to a worse school than my own? Parent Fail!

Anyways, clearly, I had to really come to terms with my own feelings about this.

First, with respect to the high-ranking school, I always told my DD, "It's only a great school if it's great for YOU" and now I had to fully internalize this belief.  (this point might not be relevant to your situation, OP)

Second, I had to decide that the beauty is that this is America and you can come from nothing and if you work hard, you can make it.  It may take a bit longer because you are starting on a lower rung in the ladder, but I know it can be done.  I'm proof of that, so I'm lucky in that I'm a bit unshakeable in this belief.

Finally, there is something to be said for that lower rung, where you don't have that silver spoon.  One way of looking at my own DD's situation is that she's so spoon-fed that she doesn't get the value of her present situation, so she squanders it.  *Not having* can be a great gift.  It certainly motivated me.

Don't worry, OP.  If your kids want a great education, they'll get one later on.  I may not be able to recite Shakespeare, but last I checked, no one has asked me to.[/quote]

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