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[quote=Anonymous]So, my DH is conservative, I am not, and we have always tiptoed around politics a little, which is not so bad.  The Trump phenomenon has been oddly unifying, since I think he might hate the guy even more than I do.  But sometime during the campaign, we realized that the venting was overwhelming.  We declared a "trump-free" week.  And then trump-free weekends.  Just having space where it was offlimits and we could enjoy a bottle of wine or talk about a book or something was refreshing.

With this week of shitshow, we have reinstituted the policy.  We discuss sometimes but we have a trump-free bedroom and trump-free time with kids.

Also perhaps related to what your partner is feeling, my DH has a bad habit of venting his work-related stress - directly onto me.  Not all the time, but during periods of particular stress.  Unable to really vent anywhere else, he yells at me about his employees, the administration, his competitors, his rivals, etc, and then gets mad if I am not sufficiently supportive (which I never am, apparently, when he is in this mood).  anyway, I end up carrying around a lot of his stress and it is a terrible dynamic that we have talked about combatting, with some success.  at the very least, he usually recognizes it after the fact and apologizes.

Maybe y'all can discuss a strategy that isn't you unloading all your stress onto him?  Declare trump-free zones but also some space to talk about what is bothering you?  He may very well be depressed.  I know I find the news so all-consuming and terrifying that I am have trouble functioning lately.[/quote]

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