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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's not Lyme disease, she's been checking out, i.e. senior-itis, and it's been a constant source of drama in the house. I never trust the grades prior to exams because teachers tend to inflate them with 100%-score busy work and easy projects.

Note, I think senior-itis is fine, within reason, for kids that have college plans solidified. She doesn't and probably just closed a lot of doors.[/quote]

I'd calm down, OP. Getting upset or punishing her isn't going to do anything. My older DD had a period of senioritis when she'd been accepted to colleges, and decided she didn't want to do any work. But it was SECOND semester of senior year, not first. We had a little chat with her, and she pulled herself together.

You may need a family counselor to sort things out. If you are pressuring her too much, there may be deeper issues you all need to sort out.  Kids don't always want the same things their parents want for them, and they don't realize how much harm they are doing to themselves when they stop studying. There's still time to apply to more colleges. We just got an email from Gettysburg college that they are extending their application deadline. If she's aiming for top schools, she's probably screwed herself, but so what? There are lots of great schools that will accept her now, even if they dont' have top "names". Look around and let go of your expectations for your daughter. She can be a star at a less competitive school, then, if she wants HYPS, she can work hard and transfer into one of the really top ones. Give her that choice. [/quote]

Bless your heart for thinking we'd reward her with backup plans if she strikes out. Not happening.[/quote]

Are you OP, saying "bless your heart"?  If yes, you are completely clueless.  When I was 17-18 I went through a period where I just did what I wanted to do.  Nothing my parents said or did would have made a difference.  I left home, moved to another country, got myself a scholarship and finished college.  Let me assure you, 100% that you are doing your child absolutely zero favors by treating her like she is a toddler.  These are choices she is making, she will have to live with them. Back the F off.  She knows by now what the consequences are.  If you don't want to pay for college, then don't.  Stop dangling it in front of her nose like it's something she should owe you for.  [/quote]

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