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OP,

The truth is, there are no guarantees. 
You can try to instill work ethic and resilience, and run the risk of them hating you even while they climb to the top. You can keep going within the parenting norms, and get happy normal kids who may not have the comfy lifestyle you have. Wires may cross and you may end up with successful kids who never strove! Or you might end up with kids driven into the ground.

All I can tell you is that I'm pushing my kids to what I think their limit is, because I would never forgive myself for not showing them, and myself, what they can really do.
I realized I had to parent this way when my first was born premature with delays, which later turned into ADHD and learning disabilities. Despite all this, he is quite intelligent, but has had to work 10 times as hard as an average kid to show it. I have told him since preschool that all this work is worth it, and will pay off in work ethic and resilience.
And then I have a competitive high-achiever, who when encouraged, can excel even more. So there's no way I'm letting her float along. She wouldn't develop any resilience that way.
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