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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's also perfectly okay to speak up.  To the friend - Why would say something like that when I'm clearly hurting?  To inlaws - I would have liked to have you with me for support during that time.  To the we all die sometime comment - yes, but that doesnt make it any easier to the person dealing with the loss right now.  I know he was older/ill but he was still my father.

People are not mind readers.  It's okay to help them help you.  Take time to process things yourself.  Should the situation come up, speak up.  "I'm sure you were at a loss for what to say but your comment about () was really painful to hear and I'm still having trouble putting it out of my mind"[/quote]

And I'd caution against that. I tried it and people thought I was being ungrateful and stuck in the anger phase. It seems better to vent about it to people with shared experiences. When someone doesn't have enough common sense not to say, "you must feel relieved," or something similar to someone who just lost a loved one, they're probably not going to take criticism of their "kind words" very well. [/quote]

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