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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]my daughters school is trying to force her to be friends with certain other pupils. My daughter is very socially aware, but she also doesnt suffer fools gladly. She appears to be singled out as a bully by the teachers because she doesnt want to socialise with these children. She isnt rude, offensive or agressive to these children, she just chooses not to socialise with them. I have taught my daughter not to lie, but as far as I can see the only way to be not seen as a bully is to pretend to be everyones friend? 
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There's too many catchphrases in this post.  "Suffer fools gladly" "socially aware" "singled out as a bully" "taught her not to lie" "pretend to be everyones friend."

Your use of catchphrases leads me to believe that your daughter is being called out on some not-so-nice behavior and you and she are cloaking her behavior behind some of these catchphrases.

No one suffers fools gladly.  We all want to be socially aware, and no one wants to be singled out unfairly as a bully.  We all want our children to be honest and not to pretend to be other peoples' friends when they are not.  BUT BUT BUT BUT BUT in a classroom of children, your daughter cannot say and do things that hurt other children's feelings under the guise of not suffering fools, being honest, being socially aware, and refusing to pretend to be someone's friend.  These are not excuses she can wield in order to hurt other children and ostracize kids she doesn't like.

I suspect very strongly that your daughter is not being "singled out" as a bully.  Rather, she is engaging in some active meanness and needs to be checked.  Checked by you and by the school.[/quote]

Your daughter is being actively mean. You've "taught her not to lie", but apparently haven't taught her to be kind.[/quote]

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