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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
Do you respect what he does at this job? 
Does this job help humanity? 
Does your husband have limitations he cannot control, and is this position the only one he could realistically hold?

I ask these questions because my husband, given his qualifications, could be earning 3 times what he's making now, but I came to understand that his type of job was the best fit for him. Plus it's in public cancer research, and who am I to take that away, even if I could? He, too, can be unsupportive, plus he has hoarding tendencies, so I do everything in the house otherwise it would be a disaster.

You feel resentful and that is an emotion you both have to address, perhaps with an expert therapist, because these things can become really complicated. You say it's his job, but perhaps you're really feeling resentful that your lives have not turned out the way you dreamed, including your career and your life, which has little to do with his. Perhaps it's something else in your husband that annoys you. My advice is to invest in couples' therapy, and do a little introspection to sort out your feelings.

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+1. OP says she is disappointed in her spouse, but it really sounds like she is disappointed in herself and her life. [/quote]

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