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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it unbearable to be present as a guest at the holidays when someone's family is made or encouraged to go around the table and declare what they are grateful for.  I just can't stand it.

Why did this tradition evolve?  It's so smarmy and insincere.  The kids always say they are grateful for their family, and then add a couple of presents in "My Wingding 2000."  "My new bike."

The parents ooze about their families, their spouses, their health, etc.

Why, why, why?[/quote]

OP, I feel as you do because the only times I have ever been present for something like this it is clearly a show that the hosts are putting on. As you say, smarmy and insincere, a "look at me moment" where they want to show everyone how deep they are because they came up with the idea that holidays should be related to gratitude.

I know this because I see these people in action the rest of the time and they are not living a life where a "ritual of gratefulness" is part of their normal day. But constantly looking for ways to get attention and convince others they are special is.

I also have friends who do live a life of gratitude and hope. I am kind of a cynical person so sometimes it is a bit much for me, but I know it is all sincere. I would probably enjoy being a part of a ritual like this with them because it would be sincere and not contrived for the purpose of sounding deep on Facebook later.

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