Reply to relationship heartbreak w kids

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "relationship heartbreak w kids "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry you're going through this. I have younger kids so can't offer any parenting advice. But, I can say that I personally was (1) spoiled and (2) fairly depressed and angsty and miserable in late high school and early college. I hope I didn't treat my parents this way, but I wouldn't be terribly surprised if I did.

My dad yelled at me one time when I was home visiting, really laid into me, for picking up a cashmere throw that belonged to my stepmother and taking it outside to cover up while I sat on a dirty porch chair. He told me I needed to have respect for other people's things, to not assume I had access to everything, and to remember that the world didn't revolve around me. It was harsh at the time, but I still remember it and have ever since tried to act like a respectful guest now when I'm home. Point being, talk straight with your kids about what you expect and brook no dissent. They are adults now and should be acting like it. Neither you nor anyone else is their punching bag for whatever else is going on in their lives.[/quote]

+1, this is awesome perspective and advice.  It occurred to me, too, that the kids might have things going on in their lives that are making them angsty and miserable. Getting dumped by a girlfriend, struggling with classes, worried about future.....all possibilities for making the son especially retreat and become unpleasant.   This is not an excuse for treating OP so badly, but might help her contextualize where the kids are in their lives right now and depersonalize this a bit. [/quote]

They are young adults.  If something's going on it's still no excuse for the way they treat OP.  Her son only wants to talk to her when he needs money but never says thanks.  No excuses.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics