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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The child support is a moot point; the child is both of their responsibility, and if the mother (or father) is doing the majority of the custody, that person deserves a boost. OP said the funds go towards extracurriculars, to which I see no reason both parents shouldn't contribute.

With that said, jealousy. The stepmom needs to stop with her comments. She made her bed. I can't stand the mentality that we are due pity because we aren't as successful as someone else. "Woe is me, look at that man driving a Ferrari! Must be nice!" No. That man WORKED for that. OP also WORKED to take vacations and buy her child whatever he wants. [/quote]

Oh I so agree with this!

I would have a conversation (or several)with DS about money, financial choices, and trade offs.

I think you did right to bring up subject with DS's dad, but you need to recognize that some of this is coming from Stepmom and not XH. You won't be able to control this much. So you need to work with DS about best way to handle: jokes are not bad ("ok my mom might make more money, but money isn't everything"), redirection isn't a bad idea, and awareness that we all are different and have different sensitivities.

Finally I would say that where you graciously can, you want to genuinely point out what you admire in other household. Home cooked meals? You want to make sure your son is not getting a message that your way is superior and their household inferior.,,,[/quote]

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