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[quote=Anonymous]Can we just focus on the fact that unless the kid is bragging, which it doesn't sound like he is, the stepsibs are clearly picking up this attitude from somewhere, and it is likely their parents?  The ex and his wife are talking about OP and her kid either to their own kids or within earshot, and they're making it an issue.  It wouldn't be an issue otherwise.

OP, it sounds like the CS he pays isn't much, and he would probably be embarrassed if you told him he didn't have to pay it.  So the ex and his wife need to own their choices.  They need to own the fact that the wife chooses to not work, and therefore their income is lower.  (I wonder how she survived before meeting your ex, if her kids have a deadbeat for a dad and she's not earning either.  My guess is she was pretty excited when your ex came along and saved her.)

And I say this as someone whose ex makes more money than I do.  We started out making the same, but I had to mommy-track myself due to primary custody and his frequent deployments, and my income stagnated.  His flexibility to deploy and travel has made his income shoot up.  I don't share in that.  But I don't talk about that with our child.[/quote]

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