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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What does your husband say about all of this? I'm really curious. [/quote]

OP here. He thinks I'm depressed and need help, basically. He doesn't think this is the real "me" and points out the 6 years we were together before having children, I was different. Hell, I was even different after my oldest. He's mostly of the camp that things need to get done, he doesn't seem resentful about doing them, but he does have some burnout from being the primary caregiver to everyone. He gets annoyed about the kids' favoritism toward me. His view is that we are in the trenches and that the storm will end. So long as I keep trying to get well, he's standing by me (he did make it clear during the intervention that he couldn't live with an unwell, resistant depressed person forever and that things would have to change -- that got like a cold splash of water and I started the journey to get well). [/quote]

But it doesn't really seem like.you are trying. You lasted half a day before making him come home from work.  You need to power through the stress and being uncomfortable. Put on a movie when you need a break. Kids will be fine.  I suffer from depression too so I get it. But if another 6 months goes by and this is the progress youve made?  Your husband is going to start looking for an out.   [/quote]

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