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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If my mom was in the hospital the very last thing on earth I would want to do is open presents.  [/quote]

At the same time, if YOU were in the hospital, how would you feel if your loved ones were refusing to spend an hour or two with local family on Christmas? I'd insist my son go and try to have at least a small traditional Christmas. And then come back to the hospital to be with me. I truly think most rational people would feel the same. [/quote]

We do know that his mom isn't going to die on Christmas morning (or surgery wouldn't be scheduled), so yeah he can do presents.

If the diagnosis is positive, then your husband has a long road in front of him with his mom.  I would cut him some slack.

It really is ok to miss an occasion.  The world goes on when someone is absent from Christmas.  You should be sure to get yourself to the hospital on Christmas day, as well.  If he has never had a parent be ill, then he has no idea what to do or how to behave, and everyone is different.  PErsonally, it would kill me if I were in the hospital and someone sat there hour after hour after hour (my mom does that).  However, other people need this.  Just give him a break.

You aren't an asshole but you might become one if the two of you don't start talking about how you will handle her illness together.[/quote]

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