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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I also have an 11 y.o. ds that sounds very similar. He has an IEP, which helps - but it's still very tiring to coordinate with teachers and constantly check to make sure he's doing what he's supposed to do. In FCPS, 6th grade is still elementary so there are no letter grades but I worry about middle school. I'm thinking he may need an organization coach or tutor, but I cost is a concern.
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PP with the long list above, and FCPS middle school for ADHD is actually a mixed bag.  The downside is obvious-- disorganization x7 classes.  But there are some ways in which it is easier.  In our middle school at least (Carson), all teachers post all assignments on blackboard, plus most other useful information.  So you clearly know what the assignments and expectations are.  And all grades are posted to SIS. So you can check a couple of times a week and see if your child is struggling in a class or has missing assignments.  Much less need to constantly communicate and touch base with the teacher.  And you have some leeway to turn in missing assignments late for partial credit. You want to get it written into you kid's IEP that he has extra time to turn in assignments, including homework without penalty. The downside, of course, is that once you know what the homework is, or what is missing, it still needs to be done/ found/ turned in.

Also, absolutely sign your kid up for Strategies for Success as an elective.  It is a small group class dedicated to teaching kids organizational strategies and executive functioning for middle and high school, plus self advocacy, and working with them on individual weaknesses. It is supposed to be offered in all FCPS middle schools.  So basically, free, school provided organizational tutoring.  I missed it with my HS kid, who was not formally diagnosed until the sh*t hit the fan in MS.  We required our current MS kid (also ADHD) to take it-- and she fought us tooth and nail (refused to sign the course registration sheet, etc). But it really got her off on the right foot.  Thus far, she is maintaining As and A-s without a tutor. Girls are often easier than boys in terms of organizational skills, but she had significantly more trouble in ES with study habits and getting homework turned in.  A word of warning: this is a one semester class.  Since your kid has an IEP, insist that they go in first semester.  Otherwise it's random which semester they get.  [/quote]

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