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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What it really comes down to is the impulse most parents of higher-functioning kids have to make sure their kids are not lumped in with the dreaded caste of the lower-functioning kids.

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Please read this OP. [/quote]

I think there is truth to this. Unfortunately, I feel that there is snobbery even in the SN world. As a parent of a LD child I get really annoyed when I hear jokes on Speechless about dumb people or in other situations where it is tossed about that between disabled persons, the ones who are physically but not mentally impaired are superior those who are mentally but not physically impaired.

It disappoints me that those who experience prejudice and exclusion will blithely do the same to another group. If you are insulting lower-functioning persons I say you lose your right to boo-hoo about how unfair the world is. [/quote]

I think the main pull away is don't make assumptions about other people's kids, and don't give advice unless asked for advice. There are just as much if not more cases where parents of higher functioning kids think they have all the answers. Many times when my kid couldn't talk moms offered me suggestions of STs and other services. They absolutely meant well, but even when I said my kids get ST 3x/ week I was told to switch to their person or try this not researched approach.

The beautiful thing about SN parenting is so many other parents in the club regardless of diagnosis are welcoming and genuinely awesome people. Unfortunately, some even awesome people decide because they are the SN parenting club it gives them a pass to jump to assumptions and not use polite social formalities (like MYOB with strangers). Honestly, this happens in many groups. When I joined an organization of other people from my culture I found that people felt way too intimate and asked way too many personal questions right off the bat. In other more diverse groups there was less of an assumption that this was OK.[/quote]

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