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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD is in a rut, and I don't know if this is normal, if she needs to transfer, needs another change, needs to suck it up, etc.

She is a sophomore science major at a very good school.  She has great grades, good friends, and is healthy.  She says that she is unhappy "about 50% of the time."  She studies all the time, but perhaps this is normal for science majors with good grades?  She sees images on social media of her friends "living it up" and seeming "so happy" at college, that she feels like she is missing out.

I told her that people only like to portray perfect lives on social media, but I am wondering if college really should be the best 4 years of her life?  I want her to be happy.  I do not know if being unhappy "50%" of the time is reason enough to look at another college?

Any experience with any of this?[/quote]

Friends "living it up" at the same college or easier colleges? I see my son's high school friends at Tailgate States living it up on facebook -- if living it up means being a drunk 3 nights a week and majoring in "marketing". My son's friends at peer colleges don't seem so belligerent and are clearly on another level.[/quote]

OP here.  Thank everyone.  I mean living it up at other colleges, mainly larger state schools.  She is at a SLAC.[/quote]

My best friend's daughter is med school track at a SLAC and she is "living it up" at school. Is she sometimes stressed, yes... but she belongs to clubs, goes out with friends, but you daughter needs to understand their are 4 things she needs in her life.

school
community
self
family

If she is 100% school she will never be happy and she needs to learn that now. So many unhappy people in the world.

School: She seems to have that one covered
Community: Does she belong to a club? Did she do a sport in HS, can she join and intramural team? Dance? Music? something besides study? Does she volunteer. 1-2 hours a week is fine.
Self: She needs to spend 1 hour a day on "self", she can break that up if she needs... go for a walk, watch crappy tv, work out, buy some funky fingernail polish, meditate 
Family: Stay in touch, make a visit, don't feel like you are too old to love your family.

also, she is at a SLAC, talk to a counselor that is why people love those small schools.[/quote]

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