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[quote=BobRoss][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for the comments. I can enjoy flirting and laughing with a man quite easily but after that, if he wants us to get to know each other more I get anxious, like I did this time. Maybe I should give up on ever dating again. I don't think I'll ever be ready.

I've thought about the posts here and something the mutual friend once said. With hindsight, she was hinting that this guy likes me. With that also, I imagine getting a response that it's not a date could hurt. I'll explain to him what I was thinking.[/quote]

Look, I'm where you are. 23 yr marriage over. I'm not ready either, but I kept thinking "I'm almost 50. If I wait until I'm ready, I might 70..." I went on a lot of BAD dates (I did the online thing), but I made myself approach all of them from the 'glass half full' perspective. I assumed there was a good reason to go out, and went from there. I kept wondering where was this magical 'chemistry' that everyone talks about. Then I went on a 'date' with someone and there it was. I'll be honest, I get anxious for every first date. Who doesn't? I know I'm not fully over my marriage, but I've accepted that I probably never will be. It doesn't stop me from finding connection and attraction, but my previous marriage is a part of my life, as is my ex. I can't make that stuff go away.

The other thing I learned really quickly is that there are not that many attractive middle aged people out there - meaning not just physically, but intellectually and emotionally as well. I say that so that you try to not sell yourself short.

And FYI - I would have taken you comment about it not being a date as a big rejection. Live and learn. That's what it's all about. [/quote]

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