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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, just curious -  - what is her living situation like the rest of the year? Do you see her at other times, in other situations  and what is that like?[/quote]

OP here. She lives alone - she and my father divorced about 15 years ago - in a senior citizen apartment complex. She does have friends in the complex; they get together on the daily, have coffee, and complain about everything. I love that she has these friends, because throughout her life she's had a hell of a time making and keeping friends, and this is by far the best support network she's ever had. But it may exacerbate the problem, given that the people she spends the most time with are also very negative and they're sort of constantly reinforcing this with each other.

Anyway, when we visit her (usually once or twice a year) her mood is no better than when she visits us, but we see her in smaller doses because we don't stay at her apartment. It's not nearly big enough for all of us, which gives us a good excuse to stay in a hotel. So while the negativity is still a problem, it's a little easier to cope with.

She visits my brother for a week or two every year and behaves the same way there. My brother's wife is at the point where she wants to forbid Mom's visits entirely. [/quote]

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