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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel way worse for the kids whose moms stayed home and as a result have no money for college tuition and have to work through school, or who don't get helped with a down payment on their first house, can't afford to take an unpaid internship etc bc it was so important for their mom to hang around the house while they were at school during the day. [/quote]

Could you share data on this phenomena? [/quote]

DP but there’s solid data that women raised by mothers who work outside the home earn more money and do less housework than their peers raised by mothers who did not.

Interestingly, when polled about their aspirations for their daughters, very few men aspired for them to be SAHP.[/quote]

Women don’t aspire to be a SAHM. They usually have a job, have a kid and then decide they want to stay home to raise their kid(s). Not sure why this is so offensive.[/quote]

This is true for me. I didn't realize I was going to stay home until I was about 5 months pregnant and realized my employer was only willing to pay for a 2 month maternity leave, and expected me to come back to working 60 hours weeks again after that (this was in 2012). That's when I really thought it through I decided I wanted a different level of engagement with my child. Prior to that, I would have told you that I intended to keep working (and had been working for a decade.)[/quote]

It’s odd to me that it took a pregnancy to realize a 60 hours week work week was a bad idea.[/quote]

It was totally fun before I had kids. I actually loved it -- it was a reporting job, and those hours involved being out in the world talking to people and then writing about it. Not 60 hours in an office. But, very hard lifestyle to mesh with having a breastfeeding infant. [/quote]

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