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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not going to reach 90 pages of comments to chime in here, but the comment is hurtful because it has a certain grain of truth in it.

We were lucky enough to have a nanny and WFH the first year of DC's life and then I stayed home until DC started daycare at 2.  At that time, she was ready and chomping at bit for more social interaction.

Now, at 3, she absolutely loses her mind and bounces off the wall on days when she doesn't have the stimulation of school.  But at the same time, she can (and HAS) verbalized to us that she misses us because she doesn't get to see us very much during the week.  And this is with 2 WFH parents.

It sucks, and feels like you can't win, but we plug forward anyway.[/quote]

If you would have read 90 pages nobody thinks there is a “grain of truth” except some extremely insecure SAHMs. [/quote]

Why would the statement be offensive if there was zero truth to it? Do you get offended if someone says the earth is flat?[/quote]

For the same reason all bigoted statements are?[/quote]

Now it’s bigoted? Just tell us you’re insecure about your choices, it would be more honest and it would lead to a much better discussion. [/quote]

The reason “the earth is flat” isn’t offensive and “women aren’t suited for leadership roles” is isn’t because the latter is true, it’s because the latter is bigoted. So is the idea that WOHP aren’t raising their children. Keep up.[/quote]

Maybe, just maybe the person who (hypothetically) made the comment had the type of work that was in person only. So, for her, in her particular case, not staying home would have meant spending a significant time away from her child, not raising it. And she didn’t want to do that. But, instead, you’ve decided that it’s a personal indictment of you and every other working mother.  Just own up to your own insecurities. It’s blatantly obvious.

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