Reply to Am I rude for staying in a hotel?!

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Am I rude for staying in a hotel?!"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you gave less than 2 weeks notice, that is extremely rude. A lot of people cook, clean, shop and plan far ahead, and there is no excuse for not making up your mind and communicating--Thanksgiving is a set, known date.[/quote]

Two weeks notice to sleep to sleep on an air mattress? They are doing everyone a favor. No where did she say they were canceling their trip. [/quote]

You don't know the circumstances. It could mean unpacking boxes and clearing out closets from a recent move. It could mean organizing kids' rooms so that they'd be sleeping together. It could mean getting said air mattresses out of storage, or borrowing them for a friend. It could mean moving office furniture to the basement to make room for the air mattress. It could mean cooking/freezing in advance--you do realize there are more meals than just Thanksgiving dinner, yes? I, personally, have made and frozen lasagnas, bolognese sauce, enchiladas, breakfast burritos, etc., well in advance of holidays.

It can mean buying and washing extra sheets and pillows, or extra sets of towels.

Lots of work goes into hosting. And if you are letting your friends or family know of your new plans just a few days out? Yeah, you are inconsiderate.[/quote]

So what if the SIL moved crap around?  SIL has a small house, 2 young kids, and no guest room.  There is no reason OP should stay there if she can afford a hotel 1 mile away.  OP can help cook.  When we had people over for Thanksgiving we did not expect them to help cook.  This year we have people coming and I don't expect them to cook.  Bring a dessert and some beverage of choice.

OP most likely is feeling touchy ...  Air mattress just to eat a frozen burrito and a lasagna?  No reason OP can't drive over for a burrito if that's what SIL makes----

How far is OP driving or flying?  Why should OP babysit SIL's kids?  [/quote]

It doesn't sound as though y[b]ou go through much trouble[/b] for your guests so you probably don't understand why Op's SIL might be annoyed with Op.

Ideally, you catch the host BEFORE they've gone out of their way to prepare their house for you.

You wouldn't call a friend up for a ride and then wait for them to show up to pick you up before telling them, "Oh, don't worry about the ride I've decided to take uber instead."[/quote]

Excuse me but I do go through trouble for my guests.  Most recent guest had a private room-freshly laundered bedding and 2 new pillows.  5 clean towels, toiletry products stocked in PRIVATE bath.   Water bottle on bedside table.  Chair for luggage-chair for seat, empty closet [lighted].  Note with wifi password, etc.

Looked like nice hotel room.  Purchased cereal, yogurt, etc that guest prefers.  To sum it up the OP's relative does not have the space for adults to stay comfortably.  
We even let guests choose what to watch on TV in the FR...[/quote]

O.k.  You are aware that a guest can decline an invite to stay overnight from the get go.  Don't wait until the host has already prepared your room for you and shopped for your meals.  Just spit it out - "Thank you so much for the invite.  I prefer to stay in a hotel but I would love to come to dinner."[/quote]

This. Don't mush-mouth your assent, stew about it, and change plans last minute.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics