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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is not a child. She is an adult.  Most likely a spoiled millennial. We have people posting here who take care full time of their terminally ill parent, and she is resentful that mom won't watch her kids when goes has to go to visit a dying dad? Once again, it is all about OP, mom is not sympathetic, nobody is helping me, this sucks....  You know what sucks? Listening to entitled OP and how she and her sister are piling up blame on their mom. "Mom isn't there for us during this hard time, mom won't help, mom won't do my homework...."  Grow up people, stop whining.[/quote]

Most parents love their children in adulthood just as much, PP. Not acknowledging OP's situation and making demands is just awful. I can't believe there are mothers there who can justify this.
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Are you a younger person or middle aged?  That seems to be the gap between opinions here. I am happy to help my kids as much as I can, but they are draining and demanding as so many of teens are in this area. These teens turn into young adults who are incompetent and don't want to work hard in any area of life. OP's situation might be emotionally difficult, but quite frankly it is not that physically demanding, she lives hours away from her Dad and only visits here and there. Drama is not the parents, drama is her's and her sister's. As for parents love their children forever, sure they do, but [b]love doesn't have to translate into servitude[/b]. If her mom was miserable in her marriage, dad has no friends or family that will see him, according to OP, last thing she wants to listen to is her DDs talking about the man that either dumped her late in life or/and made her miserable till old age.[/quote]

You'd like to think it doesn't, but it does. [b]While your children are young, you serve them. When you get old and unable to change your own diaper, they serve you.[/b] This is how the world works. Except when you love your child or your parent, it's service with a positive connotation, not servitude. I'm in my forties, if it matters, and it never occurred to me to see what I do for my family as servitude or sacrifice. I started a family, because I wanted a family. I enjoy taking care of them. They're not a burden. I'm not a martyr.

If you don't find loving and serving others gratifying, you should remain single and enjoy your freedom.[/quote]

I will never expect my children to "serve" me like that.  I hope that they can visit me when I'm older but diaper changes?  No way.[/quote]

Maybe you will die young and healthy.

American hubris can be quite entertaining. It's fun to read how people know what will happen to them and who will end up cleaning up their shit.[/quote]

That is not my children's responsibility.  That is not my expectation of them. End of story.  [/quote]

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