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[quote=Anonymous]My MIL is not a likeble person. She doesn't have friends and no one in FIL's large extended family can stand her. She has one sibling who she's estranged from. My DH often says he loves his mother but doesn't like her. She's not a monster - just very judgmental, narcissistic and a bore. DH's uncles and aunts can't stand her ass because she's always saying things to them to contrast how much better she thinks she and FIL are than them - financially, education-wise and success of children. They're all upper middle class so her constant air of superiority is ridiculous. Out of her kids, it's true that my DH is the most successful out of all his siblings and cousins. I make, however, probably more money than all of them combined. I don't know if she's including me among the shit she uses to lord herself over the aunts and uncles but suspect she is (behind my back of course. in front of me, she says passive aggressive stuff about my and my family's ethnic background (we're not white) and the fact that my career is not academic (for some reason, this is her idea of the holy grail of human achievement. Never mind that one of her other sons is struggling at a menial $35k/year job after getting his Ph.D. 7 years ago because the market for those is pretty much BS these days). Anyway, all that said, I'm very polite to her tho I've learned to keep her somewhat at a distance. I mainly just stay silent or try to change the subject when she starts spouting off on rude things (honestly, sometimes I wonder if maybe she has mild aspergers - she has zero tact for an adult). Recently, however, one of the youngest cousins (who's father is the least financially well off of the uncles and aunts) just graduated college and landed a gig at a good consulting firm. So when I saw MIL recently, I talked up how well that cousin was doing and how proud his parents must be. Normal thing to say to most people but I knew it would be like nails on chalkboard to her because her whole worldview is based on thinking that she and FIL and their kids are the only successful ones in the extended family. Never mind that none of DH's siblings have jobs that are exactly all that impressive. 3 of them don't even hold jobs that require a college degree (tho they do all have those). They've also never had a girlfriend or boyfriend tho they're all well north of 30. The consultant cousin is living with his girlfriend of 4 years; she's also got a good professional job and they'll probably get married. That should piss MIL off no end I'm sure. [/quote]

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