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After she moved out the AP dumped her. I thought or was hoping she would come to her senses but she doubled down and then started some revisionist history. I know I had my faults but it was astonishing how she focused on hard times we had 8 or 10 years ago to justify her affair. She would be a therapists dream if she had the ability to self reflect. I have the kids and she had generous visitation ever other weekend. Was on dating websites immediately after AP dumped her. She's gained around 40 pounds. Very sad to witness and now I feel sorry for her. Gave her what she wanted financially in divorce. [/quote]

Dude. I feel sorry for YOU that you were so lacking in self-respect that you took this piece of garbage back into your life.

After she left you for her AP, [i]you [/i]should have come to your senses and realized you were far better off without such an evil creature.

Also, you shouldn't have given her a penny, because she deserved nothing but the back of your hand.[/quote]

You are saying exactly what friends and family said. The kids love her though. I go through stages of anger where I want to be retaliatory. But then I think long term focusing on trying to be kind. I am not worried about the money. A litigated divorce would cost more and judges will focus on my income and also she would have more custody time. I think having the kids primarily will ultimately result in a better life for me and them long term. If she later chooses to try to get more custody time and child support I think that the longer I have them primarily the harder it will be to change so long as I can demonstrate the current schedule is working for kids. I also let her see them pretty much whenever she wants if she has something planned etc. I am trying to focus on big picture. You are correct. I often feel like I lack self respect in this regard. But I do try to focus on not being angry and moving on. It's hard to see her and it still hurts. Time will tell if I am taking correct path. [/quote]

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