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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've done both SAHM and WOHM.   I can assure you, when I'm in a SAHM mode I am doing lots of fun things for myself- exercise classes, tennis, hiking, meeting friends for coffee, meeting friends for lunch, etc...  I know that I'm taking care of the kids and household but I make a point of doing things that I like doing and not feeling guilty about it.[/quote]

Only if you were a stay at home with a nanny. Or your children are 12 and 14.  Because NO WAY.

Being a SAH parent is SO much harder than going to work. Especially when the kids are very little, like before school aged.

Yes, we can do fun things (hit the museums! go meet friends!) but you are always always ON and watching that toddler/infant/child. It is never YOU time. Unless, of course, you are a SAH with a nanny (and maybe a housekeeper). Which is fine. But for your average SAH parent ... no.[/quote]

If it's so much harder and you hate it so much and get a job. This is what kills me. It is a freaking choice and a luxury.[/quote]

People like you are so annoying. You set up an attack on sahms, they talk about their day and how it isn't always a gravy train and then you attack them for complaining!  Such circular ridiculousness! They wouldn't have complained if you hadn't attacked them!

-wohm[/quote]

I didn't.  I was a new poster.  Calm down, crazy![/quote]

Well then you're still responding out of context and are a jerk. [/quote]

Is SAH a choice for the vast majority, or not?[/quote]

Judging from the couples that I have personally seen with a SAH spouse - it is more doable than you might think even though it might be REALLY lean financially.  You have to lay the groundwork for it and you have to consider it a top priority.  You also have to accept that the SAH spouse will begin to lose income potential the minute they start to stay at home.  That can be scary especially if you have a lot of debt/expenses.

If I had had my first even 4 years before I did, I doubt that I would have chosen to SAH and I doubt that dh would have wanted me to SAH.  I do feel lucky that I have had the option to SAH but if circumstances had changed for us I would have been back to work in a heartbeat.  As a poster up thread mentioned before, you have got to remain flexible.  [/quote]

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